Observations of The Opposite Sex

Okay, I should be in bed right now, but I've been thinking about this for some time, and I decided that I want to finally get it all out in words before I go to bed tonight.

Now, I predict that some of the points that I will be making won't sit well with others (I'm too picky, I'm too this and that, blah, blah, blah), just remember 2 thing; 1- I am entitled to my own opinion, and 2- this is about observations, I have not done a full on study with charts and graphs, it's simply and series of events over many years that have lead to the following conclusions.

As you all know, I am LDS. I was raised LDS, I believe the teachings of the LDS church, and I do my best to live my life the way I should based on those beliefs. I feel that I am a good, upstanding person, with high morals, and a fairly good head on my shoulders. While I am always striving to improve both my mind and my physical health, I am not perfect, but I think that I am a decent catch by most standards. I am not conceited, I just have learned to accept myself and try to see the good in myself, and I don't think I'm half bad.

That being said, when and if I get married, I fully intend to do so with an LDS man, whom I love, in an LDS temple. My point? Well, I do not date very much. When I do get asked out, it is 90% of the time, by and guy who is not LDS, or extremely inactive LDS (like the, baptized at 8 and never went to church again after that because their family wasn't active, kind of inactive), and the other 10% of the time, it's by LDS guys who are creepy, weird, or, yes, I'm sorry to say it, mentally handicapped (literally).

My conclusions? Well, remember, I'm simply acknowledging the truth that the evidences leads me to believe, but LDS guys, are losers. Wait, wait, wait! Calm yourselves down, I do intend to offer further explanation.

Observation #1: LDS guys have... let me clarify, non-creepy, non-weird, non-mentally handicapped, LDS guys, have developed a sense of superiority in their minds as far as what they believe women want (even though LDS guys are a dime a dozen in Utah), and they think that they are so amazing, that they deserve to have only THE MOST beautiful woman they can find on their arm. It's true, trust me. Unless you look like a supermodel, or pretty dang close, you get passed up by "eligible" LDS men in... at least in Utah.

Observation #2: LDS guys think that, again, they are so wanted and superior, that the women will come after them. Again, trust me on this one, it's true. Now I realize that I am old fashioned, and I believe that guys should do the asking out and the initial perusing in the relationship, but I've found, many women still feel this way, not just me. The guys in my ward have made it clear that they think girls should ask them out. My Bishop once asked the guys in our ward to raise their hands if they felt the girls should be actively involved in asking the guys out, and a large majority raised their hands. I think they just don't want to do the work, and think they are important enough that the women should come after them.

Observation #3: Mormon guys take for granted what they have in Mormon women. Mormon guys get used to dating "good girls" who have high standards and live their lives a certain way, and by the time they become adults, they are bored with "good girls" and they seek out the "bad girls". Many non-Mormon guys chased "bad girls" at a young age, and as they mature, they grow tired of it, and they seek out more wholesome women. I also think for that same reason (taking things for granted), many Mormon guys don't know how to treat women, they are not gentlemanly, they assume whatever they do will be okay, because they are a catch and if the ladies want to keep such a great catch, they will deal with what ever he throws their way, AND they actually seek out a lot more physical intimacy and at a earlier point in the relationship.

NOW, I'm not saying that only Mormon women are wholesome, or even that ALL Mormon women are wholesome, because that is CLEARLY not the case. I know many non-Mormon women with amazing standards and are very good people, and I know mayn Mormon women who are not so wholesome, and live crazy lives. I'm just trying to make a point, and talking about all categories of women complicates my point and takes too long, I'm trying to make this semi-brief. SO, please understand, I'm not trying to say Mormons are the only good people or anything even close to that... really I could have talked about the problems women have with guys in general, but then that changes what I'm trying to say specifically about Mormon guys, and THAT is the only reason for the specific use of Mormons for this entire rant I am going on. I am Mormon, and it relates specifically to me, and that is why I'm writing this, it's about me, not ALL women. OKAY!?

ALSO, I'm mostly talking about single guys here, clearly and naturally, the good ones marry off quick because they aren't idiots, and they treat women right, and they find a marriage worthy girl and hang on to her, like any smart man would. Really, there is a reason these guys are still single.

Observation #4: The older a Mormon guy gets without being married, the weirder he gets. Seriously! That's why I'm thinking that at my age, I've past the prime marrying time, unless I want to marry younger, because 30 seems to be the the onset of some of the worst weird qualities, and it worsens from there.

On my cruise, I went with 10 other ladies, and one night we were sitting around our dining table sort of chatting about dating, and we learn that no one at that table dates much. I looked around me, and it about made my head spin. There I sat, surrounded by 10 other women, who were not only beautiful on the outside, but also on the inside. Each of these women would be an amazing catch, and yet not one of them is even being highly sought after. What is wrong here people!?

So what is a girl to do? Well... I don't know about the rest of you in my shoes... but not only are non-Mormon guys (non-creepy/weird/handicapped, non-Mormon guys... with a few exceptions) the ONLY ones that ask me out, but they seriously treat me so well! But I still won't marry outside my religion or the temple, so basically, I've accepted that I'm not getting married. No seriously, I've resigned myself to that fact. I'm just going to spend the rest of my life date various non-Mormon guys without getting married. I don't need sex, and when they decide they do, they can move on. :) I will just continue to spend my money and time on me, and work to make myself the best woman I can so that when I die, maybe I'll get one of those 2,000 stripling warriors. ;)

Granted, these truths may only be truths in this fair state of ours, BUT since this is my home, then this is what I deal with, because I'm here, not there.

Anyway, so if you have ever wondered why I'm single, there it is, in black and white. If you've ever wondered when I'll get married, the answer is, when i die. :)

Thank you and goodnight! :)